The grass always looks greener on the other side because we are not planted into the dirt on the other side. We are planted into our own dirt. Because of this, we are only aware of the imperfections and drawbacks of our grass and soil. We are the only ones who are so familiar with these imperfections – the brown spots on our blades, the bugs that might be eating away at us, and the fertility/health of our soil and how conducive it is to healthy growth. We have to live with and witness these blemishes and disadvantages; these undesirable qualities, every day. They are more apparent to us. They stand out, and make us compare our grass to other people’s. We are not planted in the same soil as other grass. We do not know what may exist in their soils, or what the grass really looks like, up close. We also do not know what lengths these other grasses may have to go to in order to maintain the perpetual illusion of perfection or ‘flawlessness,’ if only a [strictly] visual observation is carried out.
We are familiar with our faults, our imperfections, our regrets, our weaknesses and our personal deficiencies. We are the most familiar with them, and naturally compare ourselves to others in regards to those aspects. We will always find other grasses that are greener than ours [seemingly], and may even think that others don’t have struggles, insecurities and imperfections in the same way that we do. But, everyone does. And, in addition to the fact that we are the most familiar with our shortcomings and are not able to realize them in other people as easily, it is the same for them. Everyone has things that they regret, are trying to change, trying to achieve, and trying to learn. Other people are not aware of our flaws in the way that we are, and we are not aware of the flaws and struggles that other people have. We all subconsciously and consciously compare ourselves to each other, when we technically don’t even have the grounds to do that, accurately.
If we focus on our own grass, water it, and tend to it the best we can, love ourselves unconditionally, and appreciate our individual uniqueness as much as we SHOULD, other people’s grass won’t be a concern at all.
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